I recently came across a post on X from one of my followers that read -
“The best revenge is to have enough self-worth, not to seek it.”
I thought it was powerful, It struck a chord and quickly found myself reflecting on how sound it was, however almost immediately I also thought it didn’t go far enough, it was somehow deficient. I sort to expand it and came up with the following which I posted back on X -
“True but imagine possessing such a profound sense of self-worth that nothing can disturb your peace, transcending any need to act against others - a state comparable to and reminiscent of, the ancient philosophers' ideal of equanimity”
Can we humans truly become enlightened, accomplished, and complete? We can, but it’s easier said than done. Even I found my more comprehensive version intimidating. Yet, I was drawn to the challenge of personal growth, striving to reach a state of calmness and composure.
Before long, I felt compelled to delve even deeper, exploring various descriptions to generate an even more expanded version -
“Imagine possessing such a profound sense of confidence, self-belief, but more notably, self-worth - a deep knowing that “I” am of value, that “I” am lovable, necessary to this life, and of incomprehensible worth. This kind of assurance is not just a fleeting feeling but a solid, unshakeable foundation upon which one’s entire existence rests. It’s an inner conviction so powerful that it shields one from the slings and arrows of the external world.
In this state of being, nothing can disturb inner peace. Criticism, rejection, adversity and even attacks lose their sting because one’s sense of worth is rooted deeply within, immune to the fluctuating opinions and actions of others. One no longer feels the need to act against others or push back, for self-worth is not dependent on external validation or approval.
This inner peace and confidence stem from an unequivocal knowing that a state of profound equanimity will be attained. It's a state where one transcends ego-driven responses, embodying a calm, balanced demeanour in the face of life's challenges, becoming like the ancient philosophers who revered equanimity as the highest virtue - a state of mental and emotional stability undisturbed by changes of fortune.
In this state, one is free from the inner turmoil that often drives reactive behaviour. The world is seen with clarity, free from the distortions of fear and insecurity. Actions are guided by wisdom and compassion, not by the need to defend or prove oneself.
Imagine the liberation that comes with this profound self-worth. It allows one to live authentically, pursue passions, and contribute to the world in meaningful ways without the constraints of doubt or fear. Relationships flourish because they are built on mutual respect and genuine connection, not on the shaky grounds of neediness or competition.
This state of equanimity is not just an ideal but a practical, attainable way of being. It requires a journey inward, a deep exploration of self, and the cultivation of inner resources. Through practices like mindfulness, self-reflection, and self-compassion, one nurtures this profound sense of self-worth. It’s a lifelong journey, but with each step, one moves closer to this state of serene confidence, where he or she is truly at peace within and with the world”.
If I was intimidated by my earlier creation, imagine how I feel now. Let’s be honest, the state of equanimity detailed above appears impossible to arrive at. It’s too long to be a mantra but I have printed it and placed it around such that it's seen and read often. If I, if indeed one, can arrive at just sixty percent attainment of this ideal then life would be more rewarding.
